Rev. Charlotte Fairchild, speaker/writer

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Fear Thou Not 501(c)3 director
Murder on the Silver Comet Trail author
Fertile Prayers: Daily Fertile Prayers author

Saturday, November 29, 2014

Books I have published:

Fertile Prayers: Daily Fertile Prayers by Charlotte Fairchild http://bookstore.authorhouse.com/Products/SKU-000391297/Fertile-Prayers.aspx The out of print book on Amazon may cost more than the PDF at Authorhouse. It helps me to buy from Authorhouse. It will never be in book form again. A PDF can be read as an ebook and costs less than $5.00 and is delivered instantly.

Molested: Prayers by D. White found on http://www.woestowows.org written by Charlotte Fairchild. I was never molested and I wanted to help people who have been molested. This is free and never cost anything to anyone. I hope that the website continues to receive donations to continue helping people. I received one donation for one blog a long time ago. I am not a fund raiser. People must buy books to keep me working!

Murder on the Silver Comet Trail by Charlotte Fairchild http://www.amazon.com/Murder-The-Silver-Comet-Trail/dp/144045325X/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top  
Is it true? Is it written like a French Major? The problems with the book may be puzzles to solve. Where is the repeated paragraph? Where is Al Gore mentioned? Where is the segue` that goes into the wild blue yonder and why? 

Fertile Prayers:Daily Fertile Prayers

Friday, January 20, 2006

Rebecca, Roger Williams, and Charlotte at the Carter Center Oct.1, 2004

Posted by PicasaI sang K-K-K-Katie from the WWI era, and Bicycle Built for two for this man and 400+ people at this event. This is the last picture on Mr. William's 80th birthday, as it was way after 11:00 pm when this was taken.

His director of the Crystal Cathedral director was there, and Rebecca and I gave him music that was our grandmother's, Star of the East, and then the Director never contacted us before the Director died. We don't know when our time will come, but I am glad we gave him blessings before he died. He wore a Hawaiian shirt too, was healthy looking, and was so kind to us. Rebecca is wearing the white shirt and I am wearing the yellow jacket.

If you are so inclined, please buy the book Fertile Prayers at www.authorhouse.com

Saturday, August 13, 2005

Fertile Prayers

The picture above was the last picture taken of him on his 80th birthday he shared with Jimmy Carter. He requested I sing for the concert a Capella for two songs. K-k-katie, and Bicycle Built for Two. It was the first time I sang publicly since the infertility treatment. It was a breakthrough moment for me. This was at the Carter Center with about 400 people.

I don't know if it would make a difference to anyone. I was invited to Mensa when I was 17. If I were a member, and people knew I am not writing from a Forest Gump place, would anyone listen?


I was listening to Marshall Rosenberg of Non Violent Communication, and it came to me that grief had been a weight. My embroys and my miscarriages are ALIVE in Heaven. This gives me a different feeling than feeling the loss of the babies that didn't make it. The March of Dimes states that 1/2 of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, and all of these women in the world are hurting when they think of their loss. To think of the life as waiting for us on the other side has a different feeling, and freedom. To heal emotionally and spiritually is what I am about, as it is for all women and men who want children to be happy. We can only give what we have. To be full of grief and worry allows no room for joy. This is why I wrote the book Fertile Prayers, and I make rice cozies and I have done research about infection undertreated to give people a better chance for having children. Can you imagine if only 1/4 of pregnancies ended in miscarriage instead of 1/2 or more? Can you imagine if more women could have children, and more men could father children? Can you imagine a healthier world?

This Christmas 2006 I needed my book. Someone asked me what I was worth, and then was it worth it to try to have children because of the debt we still have. This from someone who lost a baby to infection and who has three living children. We all risk everything to bring the next generation to life. Thank you God for bringing me closer to you when I hurt and filling me with joy to replace the pain.


A prayer like those in Fertile Prayers: Daily Fertile Prayers by Charlotte Fairchild is below. Fertile Prayers is available as an ebook only. I have given all my copies away, except one and I just gave that to Krista Tibbet at the Carter Center. This could be a ministry of your church. When a woman loses a baby, the couple could receive this book to show caring, and bring healing. Half of all pregnancies end in miscarriage--so think of how many people in each church could benefit. This could help retention, if not bring people to church because of the healing power of love.




God,

When we think of fertility/infertility, let us include the survivors of domestic violence, the survivors of molestation, the survivors of infection/hysterectomy and abortion. Perhaps we will live in a world where this will be less common one day. So many women and men suffer. Religous groups can offer ceremonies for loss, if they would.




Please let us pray for others who may be hurting from the emotional scars we cannot see. Let us remember those who lost the baby, the being inside, and know that as much as the body hurts, the spirit, the emotions and soul remain thankful to have the chance for life, but very sad that this miracle was lost. God, peace, love and gratitude are tools we have to help. The judgement that comes so easily, if it is in the Holy Book to give instead relief, to give love, to help, then each minister (paid or unpaid) may want to help by bringing truth


to each hurting person. I thank you God for continued blessings and the forgiveness that allows healing, sleep and peace.

I got this from the Moravian Conference in Winston-Salem in 2006.

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Christian Myths about Sexual and Domestic Abuse
By Mary Potter Engel, Ph.D.
United Theological Seminary of the Twin Cities
1. Sexual and domestic abuse do not occur in nice Christian families.
Statistics show that sexual and domestic abuses occur as frequently in religious households as in non-religious households.
2. Sexual and domestic abuses occur in “those other” denominations, not in the Lutheran, Methodist, Presbyterian, Catholic, (etc.) faiths.
All Christian denominations are affected by sexual and domestic abuse. To deny this is to try to find yet one more way to avoid the injustice and shift the responsibility.
3. Theology is irrelevant to sexual and domestic abuse.
There are some reports that members of more rigid Christian groups are at higher risk of abuse. While we have no reliable data on this as yet, it is the case that a theology that is more hierarchical and patriarchal than egalitarian is one, among many other factors, that can increase the likelihood of the abuse of women and children.
4. The power of God alone will change the situation.
By “turning it all over to God,” the individual avoids the help that God sends to us through the hands and hearts of other human beings, whether they be social workers, ministers, friends, other family members or counselors. In other words, it is a fallacy to assume that God works WITHOUT any effort on the part of human beings. We are created to be responsible selves, and thus we are human beings. We are created to be responsible selves, and thus we are obligated to use the gifts for healing that God places before us in this life.
5. Accepting Jesus as his or her personal savior will solve the problems of the abuser.
Domestic and sexual abuse are rarely one time events. Often they are patterns of behavior that are very difficult to overcome. A flash conversion experience will not cure a person of deeply ingrained patterns immediately. Therefore, it is necessary to make use of whatever legal, psychological and pastoral aids and service s that are available to assist the perpetrator in his or her recovery toward wholeness.
6. Redemption comes only through suffering.
Personal suffering can be an occasion for our own growth, but it is never the cause of growth. In other words, suffering is not necessarily redemptive. It embitters some persons rather than urging them towards growth. WE can be redeemed in our suffering but we are never redeemed because of our suffering. God does not require any one or any groups of persons to pay a demanding price in order to purchase redemption. God grants wholeness and healing as free gifts of peace.
For women in the church, the revolutionary theology of the cross of Christ, a witness to his active choice to take a stand against the injustice in the world, has been distorted into a reactionary theology of suffering, a justification for the passive and unprotesting acceptance of their own unjust victimization.
7. God teaches us, trains us, through suffering, therefore it is to be accepted as a gift.
The belief that God has a divine plan, purpose or reason for the ills that one must suffer during her or his life may bring comfort ot some victims by giving them a sense of control of their reality. (If they cannot control what happens to them, they can at least control the interpretation of it.) In other words, this theological belief may be part of the survival mechanism of the victim and should be dealt with sensitively and gently. The aim, however, would be to lead victims and survivors to see that there are acts of violence that have systemic roots, (i.e. caused by an unjust system in society) and that impinges upon their individual lives rather than that of others in a random way, (I.e. the acts are irrational and they personally are not singled out for some divine purpose).
8. Suffering is a punishment for past sins.
Many women feel that they are beaten or raped or otherwise abused as a punishment for previous sins (usually previous sexual activity). They need to know that being sexually active is not in itself sinful and therefore requires no punishment. They also need to know that they do not deserve the treatment they are receiving; that they are unwitting and involuntary victims of an explosive system; and that it is the perpetrator, because of his abuse of his force or authority, who carries the full responsibility for his action toward her.
9. Suffering is a divine vocation.
Women will occasionally argue that it is their “mission” or vocation to save their husbands by their example of patient forbearance. While each one of us is given a divine vocation, no one of us is called to save another human being. That is as presumptuous as it is impossible. It is the work of God to save.
10. Suffering presents us with opportunities to show compassion and love in our suffering with the victims of abuse.
According to Mother Theresa, God is present in suffering human beings and we are to take the suffering of others as opportunities to do works of compassion and love. This is an individualistic and passive approach that accepts the whole system of injustice and does not work to change that system or to understand the social causes of the problem of exploitation of women and children. We do not need to accept unjust suffering in order to show compassion and love. In fact, acts of social justice that aim at restructuring the entire patriarchal system so that there will be no more victims can be fine works of compassion and love.
11. Suffering gives victims a “moral edge” or moral superiority.
This is basically a romantic view of suffering that treats victims of abuse as one-dimensional creatures, as victims alone, rather than seeing them as the incredibility strong and resilient survivors that they often are. Our own need to romanticize suffering can blind us to the great strength and dignity that are present in the lives of survivors as well as to the full horror of the harm that has been done to them.
12. The suffering of women and children is random.
In his popular book, When Bad Things Happen to Good People, Rabbi Kushner presents suffering as a random event. While I think this view is helpful to counter the suffering as punishment and to help us understand the suffering we experience with terminal diseases and other “natural” physical ills, I do not think it is helpful for the victims of sexual and domestic abuse. The suffering in our society of women, children, and elders, like that of Jews, lesbians, gays and people of color is rnot totally random. Rather, it is a necessary consequence of a sexist and exploitative patriarchal system that dehumanizes women, trains them to be willing victims, and blames them when they cry for help.
13. The suffering of individual women is a result of choices they have made.
While the suffering of women as a group is not random, the suffering of a particular woman is. What this means is that there may be no final explanation for why a certain abuse happened to this woman, and not to her sister or friend. In other words, we must be extremely careful not to blame for the suffering that she experiences individually because of the exploitative system that exists in our society.
Reprinted with permission from Marry Potter Engel, Ph.D. in Creating Peace: Encourage to Change (Family Peacemaking Materials for Clergy, Lay Leaders, Staff & Laity)
Anoka County Faith Community Peace Initiative 2000, Anoka County , Minnesota .